Well its day one of my recovering which means it is not day one after the break up..wish i would have thought of the recovery process first lol.
First i must say as a side note that i have found happenies (lol) in tila tequilas songs espically "I Love You" and "Waste My Time" for whatever reason i just feel better listening to them, maybe im weird i dont kno. and that i will not be using correct spelling, grammer, or english lol, i will be using things like lol, idk, and bs plus many more sorry if this bothers you.
Well in my process to heal from the break up im using the book "its called a breakup becasue its broken" by greg behrendt & Amiira Behrendt. So far i am on page 203 of a book with 276 pages. Pretty much the first part of the book was basically not helpful to me it was cute little quotes here and there and some other Q&A of others break ups (those helped). So im going to start with the first quote that i liked " Being brokenhearted is like having broken ribs. on the outside it looks like nothing's wrong but every breath hurts." which this quote is true because you are going to be the only one who knows the full pain that you are feeling. Noone else will get the full pain all though they have been through heartbreaks before every times its a different and new pain.
Well im not going to go in the order the book does im going to start with something i think is critical to healing. which means UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES CALL HIM, TEXT HIM, SEND HIM A EMAIL, INSTANT MESSAGE, OR MYSPACE MESSAGE. this is probably the first thing thats helping me. At 7pm last night i started this rule, in my case he called me and i talked to him (big mistake) even when we hung up i felt the urge to call him right back and talk more and more and more.. well tht was a huge mistake i felt worse than i did before i even talked to him. so its now 3am same night and i never once called him or text him. and i do feel better about that but i feel worse about myspace. I know his password to his myspace account so i signed into his account and checked his messages well sure enough there were 3 messages from this girl that he is as i think now talking to and that hurt worse. i deleted the messages after reading then and emptied his trash so he couldnt see them. i dont feel bad for deleting them i feel bad for ever even singing into his myspace. that just threw me way back from where i was i got knocekd 20 steps back :-(... but i did fight the urge to call/text him. even though i just want to know if he is talking to another girl for sure. i dont really know why i want him to tell me that but for some reason i do i think it will help me, but i also think now that im typin this that i wont do anything but hurt me worse.
so instead of harrasing him or stalking him, i deleted him from my myspace friend list but i made sure to leave people he always talked to on there and i put all of my guy best friends on my top friends list. i do kno that they make him jealous but hey im jealous he needs to be too. maybe im not givin good advice but for now it makes me feel better lol.
as the first commandment goes in the book is to not communicate with him in anyway for 60 days yes 60!!!! tbats a looooooooooong time but im going to try it. im looking at it this way if he does think about me enough to call or text me, im going to keep him wondering but not answering or texting him or any form of communication. personal suggestion if you have some of his things pack them up and put them in the mail asap!! dont worry about if they get lost thats then the mails problem not yours. if he has your things tell him to do the same if they get lost just look at it as something you didnt really need anyways, it was just something that would remind you of him so let it go.
heres my next thing dont check his myspace 20 times a day to see if hes online, or if his top friends has changed, or if he has new comments. my advice delete him off your friend list dont go to his page, but u can keep people he talks to on there so when you myspace is pimped out (lol) he will get jealous.
which brings me to my next point, dont take him back ladies only because he is now jealous and my be begging you to come back. get a notebook, put 2 pics of him on the first page a good pic and a awful pic... under the good pic list all the things you like about him, under the not so hott pic list all the things that annoy the heck out of you.... im not going to tell you to see which list is longer... think if he does start wanting you back and promising that he has changes blah blah blah... lets just remember that he probably hasnt think about the annoyin list... do you really want to deal with all of that the rest of your life.. you shouldnt!!!!
here brings me to my next point which is not in the book but i have found effictive.. go to a public place where you know that his friends and maybe him will be hanging out at... remember this is a important step this step should only be taken once you have quit crying, eating ice cream, and thinkin you cant live with out him... this is my way to get him back kind of thing it either works or it doesnt not maybes.... this goes with the jealousy thing... if you know not think that you can handle seeing him with another girl, kissing her, maybe going home with her... if not skip ahead.... heres what you do confident queen... either find a hot guy that you knows hes jealus of preferbly a male friend of YOURS that he doenst like or go with a group if your girl-friends... dress to impress, have something that hes never seen you in and that you look your best in.. next take either one of your dates the hottie or the ladies and go to that place ( my experience a club works better) but remember avoid confrontation at all costs fightin never helps...
go to this club with you date lookin oooh soooo hottt. go in get a drink but limit your self drastically your mind is the key thing thats going to work here... go to the dance floor where he can see you but not to close dance your ass off.... but make sure you never and i mean never look over at him because once youve got caught looking its a done game... get your girls to watch him they know what to do... they will tell you everything so that you know but you can still ignore him. dance with as many guys as possible.. if or when he does come up to you be casual, the heys how have you been ( and ur always GREAT) not fine or good GREAT!!! but thats as far as tht convo should go if he keeps on tryin to talk to you then move away go somwhere else to dance or to the bar avoid the bathroom hes goin to think you are goin to talk about him or cry so bathrooms not good. if you get him to leave youve done great if you get to leave with a great arm candy, not sayin you should take this guy home and sleep with him, you have still won even if you leave with your girls you have still won... guys are jealous humans its in the dna and it is they krypotonite!!!!
so as far as my gettin over is working... if i can surive the next 3 days with out callin, textin, myspacing, or answering his phone calls then im doing the above mentioned club jealous scheme saturday night when i know he is going to be out with his new girl, but im goin with my 3 female friends and 2 of my great guy friends they are HOTT like omghott.. lol... so they are in my game for the weekend and are down for it lol... so i will be letting you know how my game works out...
toodles for now
remember ladies nights are the worst time.. you are going to want to talk to him...find something to help you keep from talkin to him!!! you just cant!!!
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